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Dear Dr. Cherrye,
My dear friend is kind, loving and is a great mother. I’m trying to find a way to inform her that her son bullies. I think she knows this, Dr. Cherrye, but she either chooses to ignore it, or can’t face the truth. The teachers, neighbors and his peers can’t be wrong all the time.
~ My friend needs to Wake Up! ~
Dear My friend needs to wake up,
Sadly, there are parents who are blind-sided and/or cannot accept or face reality that their own child is the bully in the classroom, school or neighborhood. Parents with these characteristics may feel embarrassed and they are in denial. These parents need a nudge, or person to alert them. Since bullying is still on the rise and continues to be a problem, you, my dear, may be that friendly face to help bring your friend into the light of reality, thereby giving everyone within her son’s circle relief, not to mention how you’ll also help this child bully. If not, who else will take on this uncomfortable, but important role?
Once you get your friend’s attention, you may have to ‘walk her through’ the process of identifying why it is believed that her son is a bully. Once you do this, perhaps her ‘eyes’ will be opened and healing can begin taking place.
Signs of a Child Bully
- Does your child appear to be more aggressive than most kids his/her age?
- Does your child seem to spend lots of time in the Principal’s office?
- Does your child arrive home with torn clothes more times than not?
- Does your child seem angry all the time?
- Does your child arrive home with items such as money or other gadgets, clothes are tennis shoes that YOU KNOW you have not given or purchased for him/her?
- Are children and/or their parents always complaining about your child whether at school or the neighborhood?
- Does your child seem not to care about others and their feelings?
- Is your child extremely competitive to the point it’s unhealthy?
- Does your child avoid taking responsibility for his/her behavioral incidences?
I’d like to offer a variety resources, both reading and health wise that will help your friend, and here’s why — Once she faces reality, trying to dissect this issue will be a very stressful endeavor. Also, the child bully will need lots of support during the remediation process.
- Affirmation Daybook: Journal
- A Bully Blueprint: Solutions for Kids
- My Child is a Bully: Showing love while stopping bad behavior
- Aromatherapy Stress Relief Candles
- The Everything Stress Management Book: Practical Ways to Relax, Be Healthy, and Maintain Your Sanity
- Mess Squishy Balls
- Relaxing Teas
- Relaxing Nature DVDs: Birds Safari – Tropical Birds and Wildlife, Music and Nature Sounds
- Good Morning Yoga: Relaxing Poses for Children
I’ve made it my mission to assist parents in resolving the bullying issues their children are suffering. Offering your feedback and suggestions in the comment section could facilitate meaningful dialog on this critical issue among ourselves and I encourage this. I will respond to each comment in a timely way. Should you wish to speak privately with me, please email be at CherryeVasquez@gmail.com, and I will reply promptly.
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