This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, While meeting a few of my girlfriend’s for lunch this week, we talked a lot about our children. I shared that my 8 year old was bullied a lot in first grade, and it was my hope that this upcoming school year would be different for him. One of my friends said, ‘Boys will be boys. Just toughen him up.’ She believe that boys just horse play, and it’s not really bullying at all. I was appalled at her comment. Dear I was appalled at her comment, Bullying is indeed a pandemic in our nation’s schools. Realizing this, as a mom I want[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, As you know, school will be starting in a few weeks. Already, my child is dreading going back because she fears facing her bullies again this school year. What should school officials do to help children like mine decrease their anxieties, and hopefully have a school year free of school bullies? This really concerns me. Dear this really concerns me, Dr. Cherrye strongly believes that school officials must protect their student population. Children have the right to attend safe, bully-free schools. With this in mind, leadership should pay closer attention to bullying and not let up. This has to happen district-wide and the[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, What are your thoughts about enrolling children in classes such as karate and Tae Kwon Do for the purpose of defending themselves from school bullies? We’ve tried everything else, so we must do something! Dear, we’ve tried everything else, so we must do something! Dr. Cherrye always leans toward encouraging children to talk things out using friendly discourse, and social skills first and foremost. However, I also realize there comes a time when children tire of the meddling, and harassment posed on them from bullies — to the point they feel there is no relief and they’re backed into a corner (so to[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, It has been a rough school year for my children who were both bullied at different times of the school year. It was a very sad, frustrating and busy school year as I tried to support them while working closely with school officials as you’ve suggested. Now that the school year has ended, what ideas do you have during the summer break to help mend my children back to normalcy? I feel like their minds have been hijacked by the school bullies. Dear I feel like their minds have been hijacked by the school bullies, As I attempt to answer your question, my[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, Biracial children often get bullied more than single-race kids. How can we, as adults, help them better understand how to best handle racial and ethnic bullying? Dear Susan, Thank you for raising this important question. As we know, bullying is growing daily, but children who are multiracial seemingly get picked on a bit more depending on the racial make-up of the school they’re enrolled. Of course there are differing variables that attribute to the bullying of children who comprise the multiracial race, but it appears that the variables that I’ve observed and researched fall into one of two categories and both has to[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, The end of school is coming to a close. My stomach is in knots thinking about all the drama, school fights, bullying and unrest that sometimes emerges at the end of the school year. How can I help my child with anxiety issues? Things are out of control! Dear Things are out control, At the end of a school year things can get scary, I know. Some children can be rowdy, and restless, and yes fights and lots of turmoil may arise. I’d like to suggest to school officials, parents and students to have plans in place to avoid adverse issues. One idea[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, I am more and more concerned that our youngsters are not behaving appropriately in our schools and society as a whole. I’m heartbroken of what I see these days both in our communities and school systems. As parents, we need to ‘reel’ our children back in. Parents need to Parent! Dear Parents need to parent! Dr. Cherrye strongly agrees with you. Parents cannot be friends with their children. Yes, parents can be loving and friendly, but parents need to have defined limits. Children should know that they’re not on the same level as their parents. They must respect the lineage difference, authority, rules,[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, There’s a lot going on in our society. Our children are exposed to all sorts of meanness, bullying and violence. We hear of youngsters using profanity, disrespecting elders, and just plainly – disregarding the feelings of others. I feel that we’re raising a culture of children growing up without care and compassion toward their peers and adults. Whatever happened to family values? Dear Whatever happened to family values, To teach children family values, and to have respect for others, we must first teach them how to own care and compassion. They must be taught to treat others with kindness. This is what empathy[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, I’m a public school teacher, and I see lots on contention among students being mean to one another. With so much negatively and division going on in the news, how can we teach children about diversity, unity and multicultural acceptance? I’m so tired of the divisiveness and bullying that’s going on in my classroom. Dear I’m so tired .., You can search online and/or Pinterest for a slew of diversity activities that can be used with your students teaching them how bullying hurts. In particular, I want to share an activity with you that I saw online just the other day. I want to first say that this is not my idea, creation of[…]

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This post may contain affiliate links. Please see our disclosure policy for more information. Dear Dr. Cherrye, What are effective strategies for transforming the school bully? I realize most people do not feel sorry for children who cause trouble. Most people do not have a heart for the bully’s meanness, and menaces, especially if they are parents with children who have been hurt at the hands of a bully. BUT, shouldn’t we focus on taking a closer look at this child? Yes or No? Dear Yes or No, As an advocate against bullying, it is my belief that we must first safeguard the child (the victim) being bullied. In doing so, however, one of the main avenues is healing the[…]

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