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Dear Dr. Cherrye,
Bullying is still an ongoing concern at the school our kids attend. It’s scary and we are very worried. Schools should be a safe place for kids to learn. Yes, there were occasional misunderstandings, but not like the intense bullying that goes on today. We are looking for answers. Can you help?
Dear Can you help,
If the teacher isn’t a bully, and if he/she doesn’t instigate bullying in the classroom setting him/herself, they can indeed help with bullying.
During appropriate class periods, or during social skills times, teachers can lead a discussion on bullying and involve the students in discussions where they actually have each child talk about bullying. This may open up true feelings while allowing students to think about how they might feel if bullied, or if they are the bully. Teachers might be surprised at the number of children who have already been bullied, and at various levels in various ways. Teachers can also help children get in touch with their personal feelings, and touch upon compassion while hopefully embedding a sense of remorse within children.
Have Children Open Up About Bullying
Teachers can have students open up about bullying by simply asking students a few questions:
- Why do you think students bully others?
- How do you feel when you’re bullied?
- How do you think your classmates feel when they’re bullied?
- Do you feel it’s good to bully others that are different from you? Why do you feel this way?
- How can you be nice to others?
- Can your find nice thigs to say to your classmates?
- What will you do to stop bullying when you see it?
- Can you think of nice things that you can say to your friends/classmates everyday at school?
School officials and administrators should encourage teachers to practice, or role play with their students how bullying feels, or how students must feel whenever they observe one of their classmates, and/or friends being bullied.
Teachers can discuss with thier students ‘difference’ and how each of them is different from one another, but how beautiful it is to have differing and unique traits, talents, abilities as well as cultural differences.
Teachers should not be shy about redirecting, or pointing out to children what bullying looks like on contact. Teachers must put a stop to bullying in their classrooms reminding children about their offenses.
Take it a Step Further
If a teacher realizes that she/he has a bully in the classroom, the teacher must address the bullying behaviors immediately. The teacher must also alert administration, and then the child’s parents.
Believe it or not, there is a misconception that because a child bullies, parents know about it and choose to let this behavior continue. While there may be some few rare cases of the latter, most times parents are in the dark. Some parents do not know that their children are school bullies, and whenever they discover this problem, they are shocked, and then they become concerned and may seek assistance from experts.
Both the school officials and parents must work hand-in-hand focusing on the child bully. The teacher can implement strategies to hep the child at school, and the parent must intervene using parental approaches at home to help remediate the child bully.
Dr. Cherrye has written this book, ‘A Bully Blueprint Solutions for Kids’ to help educators and teachers with bullying. Please also pay attention to page 24 of my book. The sample chart can be utilized to help educators collect the data needed to determine antecedents as they analyze observations and patterns.
But do not fret! There are other great materials on the market that can also be used to help teachers end bullying in their classroom settings.
Dr. Cherrye will list a few other great items here:
- Stand Up for Yourself & Your Friends: Dealing with Bullies & Bossiness and Finding a Better Way
- Anger Management Workbook for Kids: 50 Fun Activities to Help Children Stay Calm and Make Better Choices When They Feel Mad
- Growing Friendships: A Kids’ Guide to Making and Keeping Friends
I’ve made it my mission to assist parents in resolving the bullying issues their children are suffering. Offering your feedback and suggestions in the comment section could facilitate meaningful dialog on this critical issue among ourselves and I encourage this. I will respond to each comment in a timely way. Should you wish to speak privately with me, please email be at CherryeVasquez@gmail.com, and I will reply promptly.
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