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Dear Dr. Cherrye,
I realize that October is Bully Prevention month. I’ve been seeing your videos on Facebook as you share messages about bullying. What are other key points that educators and parents should know, or pay attention to as we support school aged children who may be experiencing problems with bullies at school?
~ Bullying can be troubling ~
Dear Bullying can be troubling,
Parents and teachers should always pay close attention to the behaviors of children whether at home or in the school setting. This point can’t be emphasized enough, but may be easier for parents since they live with their children. It is essential to notice CHANGE. What I mean by this is: Look for differences in mood, the way the child is talking, and physical changes.
These days, most school districts have online apps for parents to monitor grades and attendance. Monitor the system determining if the child is skipping class, or have excessive tardiness. Also, watch for changes in grades.
Always be observant of your child’s actions and reactions. Body language can be very informative to changes.
Watch for signs of physical marks such as bruises, unexplained cuts, and mysterious looking scrapes.
Notice if your child complains about being hungry after school, but you know that you’ve supplied funds, or a way for your child to eat during lunch.
Notice if your child is losing school supplies. You know full well that you’ve purchased them.
Notice if your child is suddenly complaining about going to school. At one time your child was eager to attend.
Notice each school morning if your child is suddenly complaining he/she has a stomach or headache.
Notice if your once perky child is now withdrawn.
Is your child spending too much time in his/her bedroom?
You can also help watch for signs of physical marks such as bruises, and unexplained cuts.
Notice if you have students enrolled within your classroom who appear lonely, and/or withdrawn.
Notice students who often ask to be excused to the restroom, or to see the school nurse. Get curious. Ask questions?
Contact parents of students you have concerns about.
NOTICE to ALL
Keep a close eye on children/students. Children sometimes feel scared to share what’s really going on. They may fear the bully and fear that the bully will retaliate. Some children may feel like tattle tales, or feel embarrassed about being bullied.
Be sure that children realize that you are all ears, that you care about them, and that you WILL intervene.
STOP, LOOK, LISTEN, and then ACT.
Bullying can be very stressful, so be sure to relax as you help your child work through this horrific time in their lives. Expressions From Hallmark ‘>Hallmark cards are a great way to share how one feels. And, I love to share my journals. Children should be encouraged to journal. Journaling can be great for the soul and for sharing expressions, actions, behaviors and to clear the mind in therapeutic ways, and even a diary for little girls.
Take a look at my book, A Bully Blueprint Solution for Kids. I’ve written this manual to assist parents and educators with workable solutions that actually work.
I’ve made it my mission to assist parents in resolving the bullying issues their children are suffering. Offering your feedback and suggestions in the comment section could facilitate meaningful dialog on this critical issue among ourselves and I encourage this. I will respond to each comment in a timely way. Should you wish to speak privately with me, please email me at CherryeVasquez@gmail.com, and I will reply promptly.
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