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Dear Dr. Cherrye,
Our daughter has had a refreshing winter break away from school. We actually noticed glimpses of her pretty smiles and watched her relax during the holiday season. It has been a much needed break away from the school setting taking a heavy load off her shoulders. Actually, our daughter loves school. It’s the bullying acts that she hates
As the days are narrowing down, it will be time to return back to school. What can we continue to say, or do to help our daughter with her anxiety of returning back to a school campus of bullies?
~ We feel her dread ~
Dear We feel her dread,
I hate hearing stories such as these. Bullying has to end one way or another, so we must get the attention of our legislators who should continue to support school districts with funding, materials and training regarding this terrible school pandemic.
Firstly, I would assure your daughter that you plan to do all that you can to assist her. You will listen to her stories, document, and then you will act. Your daughter must sense your immediate concern, know in her heart that you are all ears and that you WILL intervene, and soon.
Secondly, be sure to schedule an appointment with school officials the first week of your daughter’s return. Share your concerns in detail. If you have names of bullies to report, do not hesitate. If your daughter has shared dates, locations, physical harm or cruel words, have that information ready to share. Feel free to download and use my free parent guide, The Bully Band Parents in Rhythm to help get organized for your important meeting. If you desire a Kindle version, you can get a copy here.
Ask school officials to bring the bully’s parents in. Be sure to share how serious this matter is, and how bullying adversely affects your daughter and her potential safety on campus. Add that you are at the point of filing charges. Trust me, this will get their attention.
Thirdly, share ideas with school officials on how to get immediate help for the bullies on their campus. This has to be a team effort with all administrators and teachers on board. Be sure to think this through. Do your homework/research and always have helpful ideas ready to share.
Fourthly, and in the interim, continue to build your daughter’s self-esteem as much as possible. Do not slack on self-fulfilling prophecy techniques and positive affirmations. Your daughter also needs to realize that bullying is not her fault, but that of the bully who has his/her own set(s) of personal issues. It may be difficult for your daughter to have pity on school bullies, but impress upon her to ‘consider the source’. This will allow her to put these bullying acts into perspective while thriving, and until she receives the help that she deserves.
I’ve made it my mission to assist parents in resolving the bullying issues their children are suffering. Offering your feedback and suggestions in the comment section could facilitate meaningful dialog on this critical issue among ourselves and I encourage this. I will respond to each comment in a timely way. Should you wish to speak privately with me, please email be at CherryeVasquez@gmail.com, and I will reply promptly.
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Use this resource, Self-Identity Worksheet: Sharing My Goals & Positive Attributesh as a tool to further assist your daughter with the building of her self-worth. Being bullied can be draining and a self-esteem let down. As you well know, your daughter is worthy of empowerment and self-worth.