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Dear Dr. Cherrye,

School has been in for three weeks now, and my daughter has had her first test. She was very nervous and appeared to have test anxiety. How can I help her face taking tests without cramming up and making herself ill?

 ~ Test anxiety isn’t fun! ~

Dear Test Anxiety isn’t Fun,

As a parent, you are in a great position to help your child face this sort of tension, so I’m glad that you’re seeking help earlier than later when things could really get out of hand. Kudos to you!

Firstly, let’s define Test Anxiety – From my experience, children who face test anxiety display signs of tension and uneasiness. These behaviors can appear either before, during or after an exam.

Some children hyperventilate, so you’ll want to be very observant, if at all possible. If you’re not available, be sure to speak to your daughter’s teacher (but try not to cause too much unnecessary attention as you do not want to embarrass your child, especially if your child is a teen).

Signs of Test Anxiety

  • Butterflies in the stomach
  • Pain or upset stomach
  • Cold, clammy hands
  • Sweaty palms
  • Feeling hot or cold
  • Headaches
  • Nausea
  • Feeling faint
  • Sleepless nights

Signs of Test Anxiety

  • Frequent tears of excessive crying
  • Feelings of anger and/or helplessness
  • Irritability
  • Becoming easily frustrated

Suggestions to Help Children Overcome Test Anxiety

  • Make sure your child attends school regularly, so that they are exposed to all the school work that will be covered in the exam, and be a part of a regular study review sessions provided by the teacher
  • Be sure that your child is consistently completing school assignments, homework and assigned readings
  • Perhaps your child can attend regular study sessions, or tutorials
  • Maintain a healthy lifestyle – This consists of sleep, eating well, exercise, and have personal “down time” including reasonable amounts of social interaction
  • Home routines at home are very helpful. 
  • Always encourage your child to do perform their level best on test days
  • They must be prepared for tests – avoid cramming with great study habits
  • You may assist your child with good test taking skills
  • Having a positive attitude towards taking a test allows them to have a “can do” attitude

I hope this information taken from the Healthy Department of Education will help you and other families needing this support.

Lastly, I want to offer you a few more options to help children relax

  1. Stress balls    
  2. Ocean Wave Projector 
  3. Confidence in Helping Kids Relax 
  4. Sunrise Alarm Clock: Wake up Light 6 Nature Sounds 
  5. Relax and Sleep Essential Oil – Lavender and Chamomile for Goodnight Peaceful Sleep

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2 thoughts on “Help! My Child has Test Anxiety

  1. M. Steamer says:

    Dear Cherrye,
    I agree with all your suggestions to the Mother, ” Help My Chkld has Test Anxiety”
    I have experienced those problems with my daughter, now young adult. I would like to share other things I did when she would have test. 1. Made sure my daughter had taken a daily dose of Omega-3. 2. Prepare a meal of Pasta w/Green Peas, Spinach, or Yams. Servings of Fresh Blueberries or Strawberries. These things help my daughter with her anxiety and stress days.
    Thank you Dr. Cherrye.

    1. Dr. Cherrye says:

      Thank you so much M. Steamer, for not only commenting, but for leaving great tips that this mom and other mothers can use in their daily walk with children. These are tips for positive change of hope.

      Many parents will appreciate learning first-hand from a mom who has experienced this issue with their own child. Many parents will use your ‘test anxiety’ recipe, too.

      Thank you so much!

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