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Dear Dr. Cherrye,
It has been a rough school year for my children who were both bullied at different times of the school year. It was a very sad, frustrating and busy school year as I tried to support them while working closely with school officials as you’ve suggested. Now that the school year has ended, what ideas do you have during the summer break to help mend my children back to normalcy? I feel like their minds have been hijacked by the school bullies.
Dear I feel like their minds have been hijacked by the school bullies,
As I attempt to answer your question, my heart is breaking. Dealing with issues of bullying with one child is difficult enough, but for two it just seems ridiculously unfair.
To help your children unwind and drift away from all of the turmoil they’ve been through this year, please be sure to continue building their self-esteem. This term is age-old, so I know that you are really looking for various, but specific ways to do this, so here goes.
- Talk to your children a lot about their self-worth. They need to hear how important they are to you (their parents), extended family, household pets, close friends, church members, society in general and etc.
- Utilize and bring in their talents. Whatever it is that they’re good at beyond their normal school elective activities, have them exercise their extended talents (those they barely did during the school year).
- Play soothing, classical music in your home this summer.
- If no allergies, burn eucalyptus or your family’s favorite essentials oils.
- Go to the beach and spend quality time near the water.
- Take small trips to places they’ll enjoy and talk along the way (Buc-ee’s is a great place to pause grab a snack, and talk).
- Read uplifting books (story books, novels, spiritual).
- Find writing journals they can use to express themselves.
- Enjoy Summer family nights (take turns hosting it).
- If you believe in God, select scriptures on the topics of faith, love and charity.
- Find charitable activities/jobs they can take part in such as helping an elderly person, and the like. This will encourage compassion.
- Take walks around your favorite park and talk, talk, talk.
- Attend parties that you’re invited to and find ways to talk about things that occurred while there. Dissect behaviors (good and bad).
- Find relatable movies that lend toward feelings/emotions that you can discuss as a family. Dissect scenes.
- Find a Park that hosts fun activities such as dancing, aerobics, art and more (most are free if you purchase your supplies).
- Hug and kiss your children a lot this summer reminding them how special they are to you and the entire family.
Finally, assure your children that you’ll continue to intervene and advocate for their rights to attend a safe, free-from-bullying upcoming school year, and that they are not the problem – the bully is!
Ideas to Help
To help you gather ideas, materials and etc., I’ve added a few links for your convenience.
Please also share with your friends and family that I have two FREE resources they may want to download. The parent guide helps the parent get ready to meet with school officials. I’ve personally used these ideas. Self-Identity Worksheet: Sharing My Goals & Positive Attributes and The Bully Band: Parents in Rhythm
I’ve made it my mission to assist parents in resolving the bullying issues their children are suffering. Offering your feedback and suggestions in the comment section could facilitate meaningful dialog on this critical issue among ourselves and I encourage this. I will respond to each comment in a timely way. Should you wish to speak privately with me, please email be at CherryeVasquez@gmail.com, and I will reply promptly.