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Dear Dr. Cherrye,
I am more and more concerned that our youngsters are not behaving appropriately in our schools and society as a whole. I’m heartbroken of what I see these days both in our communities and school systems. As parents, we need to ‘reel’ our children back in. Parents need to Parent!
Dear Parents need to parent!
Dr. Cherrye strongly agrees with you. Parents cannot be friends with their children. Yes, parents can be loving and friendly, but parents need to have defined limits. Children should know that they’re not on the same level as their parents. They must respect the lineage difference, authority, rules, regulations, laws of our land, and most importantly give reverence to elders. If children are taught the latter, the other areas would automatically fall in line.
Before I move on, I’d like to define what Ethics and Morals mean:
- Ethics – A set of principles of right behaviors or manners. The rules or standards that lead or regulate the conduct of a person
- Morals – Relates to what a person thinks is right/wrong or good/bad.
When I think about the differences in these two definitions, I have to sum up that a person is morally good according to their personal worldview, background experiences, environment, home training or perception of what they believe to be just or right.
Still, I have to ask, how does one get to the point of not being morally sound, or lacking ethics? What is it that drives a child to disrespect his/her elders, or peers? What can parents do to steer, or redirect their children in the right direction – meaning showing the utmost respect for others, being kind, compassionate, considerate and having a feeling of remorse for others?
I’d love for others to chime in adding their comments to this conversation. What can parents do?
Resources to Help Parents
- The Children’s Book of Virtues
- This Is Not My Hat
- Teaching Your Children Values
- How to Raise Kind Kids: And Get Respect, Gratitude, and a Happier Family in the Bargain
- How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
I’ve made it my mission to assist parents in resolving the bullying issues their children are suffering. Offering your feedback and suggestions in the comment section could facilitate meaningful dialog on this critical issue among ourselves and I encourage this. I will respond to each comment in a timely way. Should you wish to speak privately with me, please email be at CherryeVasquez@gmail.com, and I will reply promptly.
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