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Dear Dr. Cherrye,
As you are well aware, October is Bully Awareness month. I’m sorry Dr. Cherrye, but I do not see much progress. We still have lots of children being bullied, and Bullycide is at an all time high with children as young as elementary school age taking their own lives. As a mom, and educator, I’m worried about our children. What are we to do? What next? How do we get a handle on this awful pandemic? I am really scared!
Dear I am really scared,
Although October is Bully Awareness month, we should work through the remediation of bullying daily. Yes, this month does help us remember and highlight the ‘what next’ ideas, but I want educators and parents alike, to always remain cognizant and on top of this issue. It’ll certainly take each and everyone of us.
What You Can Do
Continue to remain aware of your child’s mood (sad/crying), and actions (agitated, mean). Observe his/her eating habits (hungry or not very hungry), clothes (ripped). Talk to your children about their day at school. Ask them about their friends and what their friends are like. Notice if they keep their friends for a while, or if they change after a time. If so, find out why. Don’t let anything get past you. Keep your eyes wide opened.
What We Know
According to the Center for Disease Control (2017) children who experience bullying are at increased risk for poor school adjustment, sleep difficulties, anxiety, and depression. These are the main signs that there’s trouble brewing. Look for children who are dragging about in poor spirits. Be sure to watch for any of these patterns. Jump on the opportunity to intervene, and swiftly.
According to the National Center for Educational Statistics (2016) children who are bullied have a negative effect on how they feel about themselves (19%), their relationships with friends and family and on their school work (14%), and physical health (9%). Since we are fully aware of these adverse affects on our children, we mustn’t waste precious time intervening.
How to Get a Handle on Bullying
Continue to arm your children with affirmations. They must remain strong, and feel good about themselves until help arrives. It’s easy to fear the bully, especially if the bully is taller and towers over his/her target(s).
Continue to take lots of notes (documentation). You cannot stop or become lazed in your efforts to keep great documentation. This includes dates, times, locations, witnesses and whether or not the bullying has been verbal and/or physical.
In addition, please take a look at my FREE parent guide entitled, ‘The Bully Band Parents in Rhythm’. I utilized these strategies when my own child was bullied in elementary school, and they worked.
Be sure to talk to school administrators just as soon as your child has been bullied. You have to ‘nip the bullies actions in the bud.’ Your child should know that you will ‘step up to the plate’, and at all cost. Remember, you are your child’s mouth piece and greatest advocate. You can find even more tools, a chart and strategies within the pages of my parent guide entitled, ‘A Bully Blueprint Solutions for Kids’. Give it a try!
I’ve made it my mission to assist parents in resolving the bullying issues their children are suffering. Offering your feedback and suggestions in the comment section could facilitate meaningful dialog on this critical issue among ourselves and I encourage this. I will respond to each comment in a timely way. Should you wish to speak privately with me, please email be at CherryeVasquez@gmail.com, and I will reply promptly.
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Use my free resources, Self-Identity Worksheet: Sharing My Goals & Positive Attributes and The Bully Band: Parents in Rhythm as tools to help you help your child with bullying, and to help build your child’s self-esteem.